Career Advice That Changes How Women Lead

Kristin Wagonblott • August 14, 2026

What is the best career advice for women? At a Baltimore Orioles Women’s Night event, Executive Alliance invited attendees of all ages to share their answers. One six-year-old offered a particularly memorable suggestion: “Be well.” On the Executive Alliance Podcast, host Rebecca Snyder and guest Donyel Bacon used those responses to explore confidence, authenticity, asking questions, and the importance of taking care of oneself. 


Bacon, an Executive Alliance member and federal government executive, brought stories from her professional life, her family, and her work establishing the Junior League of Howard County. Throughout the conversation, she returned to one idea: leadership becomes more effective when women stop assuming they must know and do everything alone. 


Listen to the Executive Alliance Podcast: https://open.spotify.com/show/033CPjpWSpbNiaBIlljxh1?si=56fdebfb23444ca2 


Make Your Knowledge Visible 

Earlier in her career, Bacon sat in meetings with senior executives where she knew the answers but was not invited to contribute. As the only woman and only woman of color in the room, she found the experience defeating. She called her grandmother, a retired federal employee, for advice. Her grandmother told her to stand up, pause, and calmly say, “I have the answer to that.” 


Bacon tried it. The change was pivotal: colleagues began recognizing her expertise and turning to her for decisions. Visibility did not require pretending to know everything. It required making the knowledge she already possessed impossible to overlook. 


Ask Questions, Even When the Rules Are Unwritten 

Bacon has always been curious, but she recognizes that asking questions can take courage, especially when approaching senior leaders. In parts of the federal government, she explained, there are protocols about whom to approach and when. She has learned to research the people in a room, find common ground, and ask colleagues how best to navigate the chain of command. 


Her approach is respectful without abandoning curiosity. When she does not know the right way to frame a question, she says so and opens the conversation anyway. For Bacon, understanding workplace norms should help people find answers, not prevent them from seeking them. 


Delegation Is About Developing Others 

Bacon admitted that she once struggled to delegate because she worried others would not complete work to her standards. Experience taught her to distinguish between a different method and an unsuccessful outcome. Sometimes another person’s approach was better than her own. 


Today she looks for the strengths and aspirations of each team member. Delegating means explaining how someone’s expertise contributes to the larger mission, celebrating their work, and sometimes inviting them to stretch into a new responsibility. She also understands that not every employee wants the same career trajectory. Leadership, in her view, requires understanding people individually. 


Protect Your Capacity to Serve 

Service is central to Bacon’s identity, yet she described years of working long hours and agreeing to more than she could reasonably deliver. Eventually, she recognized that giving 10 or 15 percent of herself to too many commitments was not fair to anyone. She began saying no when she lacked capacity, sometimes connecting a requestor with someone else who could help. 


That lesson connects directly to the child’s advice to “be well.” Bacon spoke about becoming more intentional with her time, health, and family life. Caring for oneself is not separate from contributing to others; it shapes what one can sustainably offer. 


Authenticity Includes Learning About Yourself 

One of Bacon’s most candid reflections concerned leading a nontechnical organization through unresolved staff concerns. She became so focused on addressing past grievances that she felt she was no longer leading as herself. She later recognized another blind spot: her instinct to move quickly toward solutions sometimes made her less attentive to the personal conversations colleagues needed. 


Rather than dismissing that feedback, Bacon began examining how she engaged with others. She credited Executive Alliance gatherings with providing opportunities to build relationships without an immediate problem to solve. Her experience illustrates that authenticity is not resistance to change; it can involve recognizing where one’s habits need to evolve. 


The Advice She Would Give 

When Snyder asked for her best career advice, Bacon returned to authenticity and support. Women do not have to be the expert, caregiver, problem-solver, and organizer in every situation. They can ask for help, share responsibility, and still lead with integrity. Her message was grounded in experience: strong leadership includes confidence to speak, humility to learn, and enough self-respect to protect one’s well-being. 


About Donyel Bacon 

Donyel Bacon is a federal government executive whose work spans software development, organizational strategy, and innovation. She helped establish the Junior League of Howard County, serving in its leadership from 2022 to 2024, and has supported community partnerships and the development of emerging women leaders. An Executive Alliance member, Bacon brings a commitment to service, mentoring, and thoughtful leadership to her professional and volunteer work. 


This blog post was written with the assistance of AI. 


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