The Hidden Cost of High Achieving
Achievement can open doors for women leaders. But when the drive to excel becomes an expectation to do everything, the very strength that advances a career can begin to undermine well-being. In this episode of the Executive Alliance Podcast, host Rebecca Snyder speaks with Linda Roszak Burton, a former Executive Alliance president, executive coach and board-certified health and well-being coach, about why leadership development must consider the whole person, not only professional performance.
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A blind spot in leadership development
Burton began rethinking her coaching after the pandemic, when executive clients described the strain of supporting struggling teams while navigating their own difficulties. Traditional leadership programs teach strategy, delegation, decision-making and executive presence, she observed, but often pay less attention to the capacity leaders need to sustain those skills under pressure.
She calls this a blind spot rather than a failure of leadership development. Exhaustion can erode decision quality, strain relationships and affect organizational results. For women, Burton sees an additional challenge: the emotional and practical responsibilities they often carry at work and at home. Supporting their continued leadership, she argues, means addressing physical, mental and emotional well-being alongside executive skills.
When strengths work against us
A central idea in the conversation is that strengths can become liabilities when overused. Drive and ambition help women reach senior positions, yet an unrelenting need to achieve may crowd out relationships, reflection and health. Burton distinguishes between a productive passion for work and an obsessive attachment that leaves little room for anything else.
Her coaching starts with values, strengths, mindset and goals, including a candid look at obstacles. She also asks leaders to examine the stories they tell themselves. A woman may enter a meeting fully prepared while privately questioning whether she belongs there. That inner dialogue can shape how she presents her accomplishments. Burton encourages clients to decide how they want to feel after a meeting, then consider what mindset will help them show up that way.
Small practices, sustained change
The solutions Burton describes are deliberately practical. She schedules walks on her calendar and makes a backup plan for days when the original time no longer works. She also relies on coaches and peers for accountability. When a routine slips, the response is not harsh self-criticism but self-compassion and a decision about the next manageable step.
One client placed a small red dot near the ignition of a car as a reminder to sit quietly for two minutes before driving. That pause could be used for breathing, gratitude or simply settling the mind. Burton asks a related question about an unexpected fifteen minutes in the day: what could a leader do with that time that would help her show up better? The emphasis is on practices that can be repeated, adapted and sustained.
Gratitude beyond the thank-you note
Burton’s interest in gratitude is both professional and personal. After losing her younger sister to breast cancer, she began journaling through grief. Later, studying gratitude helped her recognize the people, strengths and sources of support that had carried her through a painful period. She does not suggest that gratitude eliminates grief; rather, it helped her see her experience in a different light.
In organizations, she urges leaders to move beyond generic praise. Meaningful appreciation identifies a specific action, explains why it mattered and recognizes the effort or sacrifice behind it. It also considers how each person prefers to be acknowledged. This attention can strengthen relationships and help teams recognize what worked, even during a difficult quarter, without pretending the difficulties did not exist.
Leadership is not a solo endeavor
Burton closes with a challenge especially relevant to Executive Alliance: women need sponsors who recognize their abilities and advocate for them when they are not in the room. They also need to sponsor one another, intentionally naming strengths and opening doors. As she puts it, the pressure is too great to carry alone.
The broader lesson is not to abandon ambition. It is to make achievement sustainable through self-knowledge, realistic habits, supportive relationships and workplaces that value the whole leader. The question is not only what women can accomplish, but what will help them continue to thrive while accomplishing it.
About Linda Roszak Burton
Linda Roszak Burton is a former president and longtime member of Executive Alliance, an executive coach and a board-certified health and well-being coach. Her work draws on positive psychology, strengths, gratitude, resilience and stress management. She has written a gratitude journal and workbook, and she incorporates research and practical well-being strategies into her coaching of leaders and organizations.
This blog post was written with the assistance of AI.
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